Children-parents thingy revolves around obligations and rights. Since the children's obligations are cliche to be discussed, we will be focusing on the second point; children's rights.
We, as children, do have rights; to feel our parents' affection, to get fulfilled all the daily life needs, and above all, we have right to get the best tarbiyah.
We, as children, do have rights; to feel our parents' affection, to get fulfilled all the daily life needs, and above all, we have right to get the best tarbiyah.
In this slammed globalization era, bunch of parents are in race to make money, which is merely for the sake of the family. It's good. It's good 'cause it's the manifestation of their responsibility. Thus, lots and lots of parents are persistent to spend most of their time at work.
But,
Children are children. It's not a big deal whether they are 9, 17, or 25, they are still children, who still need to be spent your time with. Do you parents ever think that they always feel so lonely everytime you aren't there? Does it ever cross your mind that all this time your children might seek for somebody they can talk to? Have you ever wondered, are your children's friends enough to replace your existance at the times where it should be you, accompany them? Ask yourselves!
And nowadays, there are plenty of parents think that as long as they have fulfilled their children's needs, such as foods, homestead, clothes, school fee, pocket money, they are already being good parents.
BUT, you have to consider one thing; tarbiyah. Religion lesson. If you don't give enough religion lesson to your children, you have failed being parents. A wise man once said, "If you don't give a good tarbiyah to your children, it means you have neglected and abandoned them."
You can attest to this, but those children who have good tarbiyah, they have enormous self-image. Sure thing, because ISLAM is the answer to all issues in all aspects of life. DON'T EVER try to secularize your children, because they will see every single thing based on secularism. Which is, no religion sides. When the children fail to get secular instances, no power can help them.
This is a different case if the children have good tarbiyah since early, they will learn to process everything in Islamic point of view. Once they fail, they will not get down, 'cause they know Allah is always with them. They do believe that Allah is all the answer, Allah is everything to everything.
HOW?
Be your children's role-model. You want your children to do sholat 5 times a day? You have to sholat 5 times a day too. You want your children to be polite and have a good manner? Don't ever do trash-talk in front of them. If you want your children to be such a good person, be like one. Start from yourselves. Don't insist your children to do something that you don't even do. You parents are your children's reflections, so just be good. Stay good.
And, you have to free your time to gather with your family, especially with your children. No phones. Don't let any distractions distract your so very high quality time. Discuss everything; about motivations of life, about your days, surroundings (friends or co-workers), school, work, even books or foods. It's all to firm your togetherness. And one thing, one thing, that is the most important above all to be discussed about is, religion.
'Ilm.
You have to share each other about the 'ilm of diinul Islam. Let your children ask much and much questions. Therefore, you have to have the knowledge itself. Enrich your knowledge about Islam, because you are your children's first madrasah, and will always be their best madrasah.
That's all. I hope this little writing can encourage you to do all things above. My words to all teenagers..hey, we will be parents! We'd better to prepare ourselves for the best for our future children! :)
BUT, you have to consider one thing; tarbiyah. Religion lesson. If you don't give enough religion lesson to your children, you have failed being parents. A wise man once said, "If you don't give a good tarbiyah to your children, it means you have neglected and abandoned them."
You can attest to this, but those children who have good tarbiyah, they have enormous self-image. Sure thing, because ISLAM is the answer to all issues in all aspects of life. DON'T EVER try to secularize your children, because they will see every single thing based on secularism. Which is, no religion sides. When the children fail to get secular instances, no power can help them.
This is a different case if the children have good tarbiyah since early, they will learn to process everything in Islamic point of view. Once they fail, they will not get down, 'cause they know Allah is always with them. They do believe that Allah is all the answer, Allah is everything to everything.
HOW?
Be your children's role-model. You want your children to do sholat 5 times a day? You have to sholat 5 times a day too. You want your children to be polite and have a good manner? Don't ever do trash-talk in front of them. If you want your children to be such a good person, be like one. Start from yourselves. Don't insist your children to do something that you don't even do. You parents are your children's reflections, so just be good. Stay good.
And, you have to free your time to gather with your family, especially with your children. No phones. Don't let any distractions distract your so very high quality time. Discuss everything; about motivations of life, about your days, surroundings (friends or co-workers), school, work, even books or foods. It's all to firm your togetherness. And one thing, one thing, that is the most important above all to be discussed about is, religion.
'Ilm.
You have to share each other about the 'ilm of diinul Islam. Let your children ask much and much questions. Therefore, you have to have the knowledge itself. Enrich your knowledge about Islam, because you are your children's first madrasah, and will always be their best madrasah.
That's all. I hope this little writing can encourage you to do all things above. My words to all teenagers..hey, we will be parents! We'd better to prepare ourselves for the best for our future children! :)
Salam ukhuwah❤
